Before you cancel this page just by glancing at the title of this post, and start cursing me in your mind by thinking, "WTF!! Another crazy and amateur person trying to teach us anger management techniques!!! I'm just so sick of this..@#$@#", please let me explain. This is not a post to teach anyone anything. Although, I would safely call myself an expert on anger management advisory. Believe you me, I have heard and read about the weirdest of ways there are to control your temper. Now I am sure there'll be a bubble coming out of your head with a question, which is: How and why does a sweet, innocent, soft spoken, and shy girl like Aastha know so much about controlling anger? I have never seen her lose her temper...To answer your question, I am sure you all must have heard the saying that Looks are deceptive! So, the bottomline is that I am a very very very short tempered person, and when I get angry I get totally out of control and say things to people which I generally don't mean. Also, my bursts of anger usually last for days at a stretch and I become completely uncommunicative. I know it's my biggest character flaw and overshadows all my positive points. At this point, I would like to just shout out something:
MOM, DAD, GRANDMOM, GRANDAD!! LOOK I FINALLY ADMITTED THAT I HAVE A PROBLEM AND I NEED TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!!!
Whew...that feels good. Why I did this is because my family is very irritated by and at the same time, worried about by temper. So much so, that they recently went to a pandit (a complete shocker for me, because my dad considers himself to be an atheist!!!!) and, on his suggestion, have made me wear a pearl ring to cool me down. Also, whenever they come across any article related to anger or anger management, they cut it out of the newspaper or magazine, and then force me to read it. It gets so very irritating after a while, to see your table cluttered with bits and pieces of paper everyday, and all saying the same thing, in either English or Hindi.
Ohh..Sorry, I strayed off for a bit. Coming back to the topic at hand. So, as I was telling you that my bouts of anger last for days altogether. However, for the past fewweeks months, a weird is happening to me. Suddenly, I have become hostile to some people (mostly people at the office) and remain angry at them all the time. So much, that even if I see them from far away or if they pass by my workstation, or for that matter if someone just mentions their name in a general conversation, I feel my blood starting to boil. My whole demeanor changes and I feel like just picking up something and smashing it against the wall. I really don't know the reason behind this behavioral change, but sometimes it gets really frightening. I feel very guilty sometimes, because some of these people are or were very good friends of mine. But, at the same time the reaction is not in my control. I try to shake away these feelings, but in vain. Also, with time, instead of diminishing, my anger at these people has increased manifold. It may be their attitude, their personality or their behaviour which I dislike, but it gets very scary when you feel that level of rage at a person.
However, after saying all this, I must thank some people, in addition to my family, who really make all my bad temper, anger and frustration go away in a jiffy. They make me laugh even if I am in a very sour mood or going through some problems. Basically, they help me keep my cool and sanity at work and sometimes at home too. First and foremost are two very special people - Preeks and DJ, with whom I have spent the best four years of my life. We have laughed at everything under the sun. Even now, they can make me smile with just a stupid remark, a silly SMS, or just by seeing their name being flashed during an incoming call on my cell phone. A biiggg thank you guys :-) Next comes a person who I truly idolize. She is one of the wittiest and funniest (dunno whether this is a word or not) human being I have come across. At the same time, she is a great advisor, a brilliant counsellor, and a fantastic motivator. She is, the one and only JENNY!! A true friend in every sense, she is simply awesome!! She has been through a lot in life, but you will never see her greet you with anything but a dazzling smile that will make you forget all your problems. Thanks for always being there Jenny, you are a source of inspiration and strength to me.
I know this post has become horribly long, but I still have to thank some more people. Next in line is Panky, a person who listens to all my cribbing, my fears, my problems, without being judgmental. I feel very light headed and good after talking with him. He has a whacky sense of humor that totally cracks me up. Also, we have so much in common that we can go on chatting for hours and not run out of topics. Thanku Panku!!!
Then there is Jassi, who is very protective of me. He considers my problems to be his own, and gets agitated if I am tense or unhappy. Dude, it's real fun concocting imaginary conspiracies with you against some people :-)
I know I have missed out on many more people, but I will have to stop before the readers fall asleep.
Will come back with more later. Till then
Signing Out,
The Anger Consultant
MOM, DAD, GRANDMOM, GRANDAD!! LOOK I FINALLY ADMITTED THAT I HAVE A PROBLEM AND I NEED TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!!!
Whew...that feels good. Why I did this is because my family is very irritated by and at the same time, worried about by temper. So much so, that they recently went to a pandit (a complete shocker for me, because my dad considers himself to be an atheist!!!!) and, on his suggestion, have made me wear a pearl ring to cool me down. Also, whenever they come across any article related to anger or anger management, they cut it out of the newspaper or magazine, and then force me to read it. It gets so very irritating after a while, to see your table cluttered with bits and pieces of paper everyday, and all saying the same thing, in either English or Hindi.
Ohh..Sorry, I strayed off for a bit. Coming back to the topic at hand. So, as I was telling you that my bouts of anger last for days altogether. However, for the past few
However, after saying all this, I must thank some people, in addition to my family, who really make all my bad temper, anger and frustration go away in a jiffy. They make me laugh even if I am in a very sour mood or going through some problems. Basically, they help me keep my cool and sanity at work and sometimes at home too. First and foremost are two very special people - Preeks and DJ, with whom I have spent the best four years of my life. We have laughed at everything under the sun. Even now, they can make me smile with just a stupid remark, a silly SMS, or just by seeing their name being flashed during an incoming call on my cell phone. A biiggg thank you guys :-) Next comes a person who I truly idolize. She is one of the wittiest and funniest (dunno whether this is a word or not) human being I have come across. At the same time, she is a great advisor, a brilliant counsellor, and a fantastic motivator. She is, the one and only JENNY!! A true friend in every sense, she is simply awesome!! She has been through a lot in life, but you will never see her greet you with anything but a dazzling smile that will make you forget all your problems. Thanks for always being there Jenny, you are a source of inspiration and strength to me.
I know this post has become horribly long, but I still have to thank some more people. Next in line is Panky, a person who listens to all my cribbing, my fears, my problems, without being judgmental. I feel very light headed and good after talking with him. He has a whacky sense of humor that totally cracks me up. Also, we have so much in common that we can go on chatting for hours and not run out of topics. Thanku Panku!!!
Then there is Jassi, who is very protective of me. He considers my problems to be his own, and gets agitated if I am tense or unhappy. Dude, it's real fun concocting imaginary conspiracies with you against some people :-)
I know I have missed out on many more people, but I will have to stop before the readers fall asleep.
Will come back with more later. Till then
Signing Out,
The Anger Consultant
